Selflessness implies God. The sharing of self inspires God. It is with the love of a parent or same love of a child we can understand our relationship to God.
He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
- Matthew 10:37
If father is set upon his child or child against mother as the Scripture implies (Matthew 10:34), it is because the father is no longer a true father, in God, or the daughter, a true daughter to the mother whom she is set upon. To love one another, before loving Christ, before loving God, is a self-love in likeness alone.
To love Christ firstly and embrace God before that love of person, is to greet that person in the highest esteem, permitting a love that knows both likeness and difference. If love is to be based upon likeness only, then it stands to follow that arguments will sooner or later ensue. If love is to incorporate the Heavenly grace of a greater love than is consciously understood, then we may revere the person, by firstly revering our beloved God and Christ.
Each man who comes to us as representative of Christ in goodness, who by deed or by word has been touched with his active love, is an emissary of God that we must not turn away lest we offend Him. This is so.